Just skip the first passage if it feels complicated :)(it does for me too), aside the first sentence.
It’s possible to say “I don’t think a lot of him.” and it being nothing bad so to speak. It’s not bad either way but what I mean is sometimes we feel it might be bad, or we actually just meant to say it in “the good” way and so it feels off when we say it in a disapproving-like way.
I mean it is quite a phenomenon. Because when you say it with its original meaning, then it feels good. And it’s almost as if saying it in a condescending way or whatever this notion is.. would lead to say it in such a way. Because it’s not said in the original way.
In German it means “to not hold a lot of someone”. So you don’t share a lot, which means it doesn’t even interest you. The actual sense of it. Like why would you be so involved with someone you don’t even think of a lot. So it seems the condescending touch actually has to do with not being able to say it in the real way. Being out of touch with that.
But I don’t mean any self fixing; that doesn’t exist.