When I say …, I mean …
It’s not offended, not argueing (I’m not saying how to say it, that would be absurd, I’m describing what I mean :). It might also be a boundary. It’s a bit playful, pure. It says the truth. It helps to not feel dumbed down. It’s something we naturally want to say in such spots.
I’d like to pay with my card…With the card?…When I say card I mean card…
(It went on like this: But I didn’t do anything (provokingly effectively) … But I’m just saying *relieved laugh*)
Some people do random things, pushing buttons, crossing boundaries, not knowing what they’re doing. I said it a little bit angrily or assertively and it caused the person to feel on the defence while at the same time she was provoking again. It also shows, that it’s okay to misunderstand someone, to not know why they were asking. It’s not a big deal. It’s nothing that couldn’t be resolved. Because it’s also such an innocent thing to say. I said it, she heard it, what’s there to ask? It’s a bit hilarious. And saying these simple things, these simple truths really help to be on the right page. Or in other words, it is how we feel, and it’s good to say how you feel.
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