At times I feel a little selfconscious. I was sitting at a busstop that was out of service, to relax. And I got a bit selfconscious about it looking as if I was waiting for the bus. Until I realised that my selfconsciousness already includes knowing that the busstop is out of service. It’s rather a metaphor cause there is nothing to this situation really. Now you might think, ok if I wasn’t selfconscious then it’s not inclusive so you might get s.c. because of that but then you would realise that being s.c. still is absurd for the reason I just mentioned, so it’s kind of a thing of you might aswell not be s.c. or nevermind or such.
This is from the same video. Everything is playful between the 2 guys, yet it can be used vs fear mongering.
So one guy mentions something like: “Oh that is gonna be tough.”
The other guy acts afraid but not mocking the other person: “Whoo”
This is also a way to deal with such things when you frame the fear mongering as playful. Kinda acting naive cause it makes the other person act hard to not give themselves away but more importantly you set the vibe.
Then he says this random hilarious thing with a sligjtly overly serious intonation while the other guy is talking about why it is tough: “It’s not easy.”
You know it’s got that vibe of provoking a laugh in overly serious situations where you feel as if it is “not allowed” to laugh, yet he cannot be blamed to be disrespectful. So it’s this combination of serious intonation as if he is about to add something important and then making this random remark. Surely the same comment without the playfulness is not funny.
Later in the video one guy says: “Could you stand over on that piston.” and again it’s all playful. He acts a serious person who gives instructions or actually he is just serious/adult but he can’t keep it up for long cause the other one is making him laugh.
And the other one replies in a random moment: “This one here.” with an intonation as if it was tough to find and he is not sure, yet there is only one piston xD.
What adds to the fun is that you never know what he is going to reply cause he is also straight forward. It’s like he uses it sparingly intuitively when you don’t expect it.
Surely if you would do such things consciously it likely takes away from the fun but as with everything it can be forgotten once re/learnt or inspired. It definitely needs authenticity and an inner impulse otherwise it’s empty. It could also be inspiring for a dialogue in a book or such things.
Now there is another thing he does. He then takes the adult serious role and acts it which is what makes it funny in contrast with his previous remarks:
“That was a bit of a mind..like a mess.” “A mindfuck. Is that what you are avoiding saying!?”
It can easily come across as critical but it’s not condescending but adult, yet he is playful but he doesn’t show. At the same time he also kinda means it yet never critical as in fault-finding.
So playfulness really can spice up these Got ya games people tend to play and they are so serious about it. It just beats that vibe.
In general what being playful does is it shows whenever being serious is overused for no reason without being disrespectful, blaming or critical which would also only add to nonplayful vibe. It is in itself actually more adult/mature. Self-expression for example is always more mature but may seem “childish” which it is yet it isn’t immature.
Just when it is done as in attention-whoring or always going for it in certain spots this will then make it rather lame or annoying also because of the self-consciousness. It is only fun when it’s a natural innocent expression. Yet even from there there is room for surprise when you would keep it up or such. And it may be a good start when the atmosphere is very serious and tense and go from there.
Another thing that ruins playfulness is if you feel you are supposed to laugh. And it may even be funny in itself but this could then ruin it and feels irritating. It’s kinda the same as I just wrote above. Or when there is trying hard to have a good time again it is better to let go and be “normal” and let it arise naturally, otherwise it causes being blocked. So it’s like trying hard creates tension and stress and when you stop that this will then be released cause tension also leads to overly serious acting which has the potential to be funny. Or when trying hard creates tension, just picking something that may be less funny in itself can do the trick to ease up. And then there is relief and the laughter itself makes it funny.
I’m gonna write more about these little inspirations when communicating. What it does is it deals with energy and creates a pleasant vibe and is also assertive or quickwitted.
So this technique and I guess you could call it like that is inspired by a youtube videogame uhm video.
One guy mentions playfully something like: “It lacks splatter. That would be nice if you could see in the falling animation..*goes a bit more into detail*
Other guy replies: “Ohh. That’s lovely. “short pause” Because that is exactly what people want to see.”
Now the way he says it is dry humour, as if he replies to something lovely. There is no sharp vibe of sarcasm. Just smooth playful irony. Sure people may actually want to see that so there is a bit of sarcasm in it but then you can’t tell for sure what he thinks about it. And it’s got that random thing to say touch.
Now you could use that when somebody mentions something harsh, cruel or such to maybe intimidate without being playful, to neutralize such vibe.
It’s fun and refreshing to act and it adds surprise, variety and elements of aliveness to maybe repetitive communication patterns.