Every now and then I come across things that just appear in other ways than I meant them, so I want to write about one of those things.
I just give you the text. It was on a video about Minecraft:
“And haha 🙂 I built trees like that too, I thought it was bad. I mean mine looked worse.”
There is obviously no way that you could possibly misunderstand it you might think because my attitude is clearly friendly. But it is not about that but actually about that it would be very offsetting if it was misunderstood beCause of this friendly attitude. And in this case I was just saying (earlier in this comment) what I didn’t like about a detail that he put. He put some stairs as a detail in the way and to me it just looked like holes and that you could stumble, clearly nothing rough, I just said it, that I felt that he not even like it himself or maybe it’s just me.
So with that in mind all of a sudden it appears as if I could have meant that I thought the tree he built was bad and that mine looked worse though. Which is not a problem if I really thought so, you know what I mean but there is no way that I would critisize it such way.
So ok, I put brackets, but I put it after “I thought it was bad”
( I mean the one I built of course :), ehh I mean I then saw it was alright…just rechecked how it could be misunderstood)
Looks quite messy but it makes sense that I wanted to make sure…
There is another detail I realized I need to put and that is “by that” because otherwise it could mean something else.
( I mean the one I built of course :), ehh by that I mean I then saw it was alright…just rechecked how it could be misunderstood)
But then I figured it is not in the right order because it also looks like what am I up to and potentially as if I added “mine looks worse” after the brackets. But it was before,
So I put it after it:
“And haha 🙂 I built trees like that too, I thought it was bad. I mean mine looked worse.” …but now it wouldn’t relate back to the 2nd sentence.
So I had to add another detail:
“And haha 🙂 I built trees like that too, I thought it was bad. I mean mine looked worse.” ( I thought it was bad = I mean the one I built of course :), ehh by that I mean I then saw it was alright…just rechecked how it could be misunderstood)
I also “had” to put a smile because it reads frustrated otherwise. The smile just stands for not frustrated. I mean, I felt a light frustration or annoyance. This is another detail:
I mean, I felt a light frustration or annoyance.
I mean I felt a light frustration or annoyance. (no comma)
One is explaining something I said before as in “I mean, that…”, the other is not. I wasn’t explaining anything I meant prior. I mean it has a dumbing down notion because everything is usually clear out of the context which is like a nonzoomed clear view or feel ( I just meant to say, that the other is zoomed in, not explain something everyone knows). I just didn’t put a comma for example. It’s whatever in most cases, but sometimes I get the feel that things look different than I meant it and yeah 🙂
Then expressed that it’s no big deal with “just rechecked how it could be misunderstood” because it isn’t. There is no complications, it just resolves. And the smile actually stands for “not frustrated” as a primary thing but it expresses also something else of a direct meaning of it.
The only problem is that it took the place of how I actually felt, while I feel atst you can dismiss all the other and only see what is is.
Now I might have found a different way to say it, but you know 🙂
So yeah I came across a few of these things and it’s good to realize, atst also good to stay calm about it if it was an email, that you can’t edit. You can always clear it up later or when you keep your page, it naturally contrasts usually with a misunderstanding. That would be a reason to not worry, ideally you’re just completely innocent and just don’t know anything else. When in doubt, just never worry, the vibe of it will ruin things and otherwise God can help so to speak. But of course you need to know that for sure, not withhold worries. I guess that is what is faith also. You just know you’re good or you are relieved to not do something that certainly will 1. not make it good 2. make it worse. We need to see that. I mean that’s actually not the real reason why to stay calm (and who knows sometimes it might need doing something about it, yet calmly), I mean it is a very good one, just might feel a little helpless. There often is simply no need to worry. Just like you might strike up talking about work in a romance situation (which isn’t necc. a bad thing), well then you just let it fade out and start with something new as it often already presents itself. There is no need to try to maneuver it hecticly.
In case it is confusing. By his way of building I realized the tree I was trying to build was actually not as bad as I thought. And I could have put it this way, but you see I like to write maybe a more personal way Idk how to say. It usually is something, when you know each other, you know how it is meant, which is the big freedom of being friends. You can say all the stuff that otherwise often gets misunderstood.