Misunderstandings when communicating through writing

Every now and then I come across things that just appear in other ways than I meant them, so I want to write about one of those things.

I just give you the text. It was on a video about Minecraft:

“And haha πŸ™‚ I built trees like that too, I thought it was bad. I mean mine looked worse.”

There is obviously no way that you could possibly misunderstand it you might think because my attitude is clearly friendly. But it is not about that but actually about that it would be very offsetting if it was misunderstood beCause of this friendly attitude. And in this case I was just saying (earlier in this comment) what I didn’t like about a detail that he put. He put some stairs as a detail in the way and to me it just looked like holes and that you could stumble, clearly nothing rough, I just said it, that I felt that he not even like it himself or maybe it’s just me.

So with that in mind all of a sudden it appears as if I could have meant that I thought the tree he built was bad and that mine looked worse though. Which is not a problem if I really thought so, you know what I mean but there is no way that I would critisize it such way.

So ok, I put brackets, but I put it after “I thought it was bad”

( I mean the one I built of course :), ehh I mean I then saw it was alright…just rechecked how it could be misunderstood)

Looks quite messy but it makes sense that I wanted to make sure…

There is another detail I realized I need to put and that is “by that” because otherwise it could mean something else.

( I mean the one I built of course :), ehh by that I mean I then saw it was alright…just rechecked how it could be misunderstood)

But then I figured it is not in the right order because it also looks like what am I up to and potentially as if I added “mine looks worse” after the brackets. But it was before,

So I put it after it:

“And haha πŸ™‚ I built trees like that too, I thought it was bad. I mean mine looked worse.” …but now it wouldn’t relate back to the 2nd sentence.

So I had to add another detail:

“And haha πŸ™‚ I built trees like that too, I thought it was bad. I mean mine looked worse.” ( I thought it was bad = I mean the one I built of course :), ehh by that I mean I then saw it was alright…just rechecked how it could be misunderstood)

I also “had” to put a smile because it reads frustrated otherwise. The smile just stands for not frustrated. I mean, I felt a light frustration or annoyance. This is another detail:

I mean, I felt a light frustration or annoyance.

vs

I mean I felt a light frustration or annoyance. (no comma)

One is explaining something I said before as in “I mean, that…”, the other is not. I wasn’t explaining anything I meant prior. I mean it has a dumbing down notion because everything is usually clear out of the context which is like a nonzoomed clear view or feel ( I just meant to say, that the other is zoomed in, not explain something everyone knows). I just didn’t put a comma for example. It’s whatever in most cases, but sometimes I get the feel that things look different than I meant it and yeah πŸ™‚

Then expressed that it’s no big deal with “just rechecked how it could be misunderstood” because it isn’t. There is no complications, it just resolves. And the smile actually stands for “not frustrated” as a primary thing but it expresses also something else of a direct meaning of it.

The only problem is that it took the place of how I actually felt, while I feel atst you can dismiss all the other and only see what is is.

Now I might have found a different way to say it, but you know πŸ™‚

So yeah I came across a few of these things and it’s good to realize, atst also good to stay calm about it if it was an email, that you can’t edit. You can always clear it up later or when you keep your page, it naturally contrasts usually with a misunderstanding. That would be a reason to not worry, ideally you’re just completely innocent and just don’t know anything else. When in doubt, just never worry, the vibe of it will ruin things and otherwise God can help so to speak. But of course you need to know that for sure, not withhold worries. I guess that is what is faith also. You just know you’re good or you are relieved to not do something that certainly will 1. not make it good 2. make it worse. We need to see that. I mean that’s actually not the real reason why to stay calm (and who knows sometimes it might need doing something about it, yet calmly), I mean it is a very good one, just might feel a little helpless. There often is simply no need to worry. Just like you might strike up talking about work in a romance situation (which isn’t necc. a bad thing), well then you just let it fade out and start with something new as it often already presents itself. There is no need to try to maneuver it hecticly.

In case it is confusing. By his way of building I realized the tree I was trying to build was actually not as bad as I thought. And I could have put it this way, but you see I like to write maybe a more personal way Idk how to say. It usually is something, when you know each other, you know how it is meant, which is the big freedom of being friends. You can say all the stuff that otherwise often gets misunderstood.

 

 

 

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Misunderstandings often clear up by themselves

It feels like the need or the trying to clear something up is often only cause of the belief that it would be the way. Because we don’t know that if we just stay on our page it will clear up by itself. By the lack of the other and by it in itself. Not that it really matters, it’s like inclusive.

 

Thoughts about god

People always say god wants you to be really down so he can work through you and in a way it’s how it goes but its not cause he wants you to be down, it’s just naturally the only way towards him and not away from. You might say, sure what else, but I didn’t mean it this way. I meant that being down is a side-effect.. I actually can’t put my finger on it anymore but maybe you feel what I mean.

In the same sense something kind and something sarcastic could look like the same thing. When you appear like playing it down so it can reach somebody…it could also look very similar like this when you were sarcastic, feeling unloved. Obviously the expressions are way different.

God speaks through people also and often they can’t get it across any better way but it sounding critical while the idea still is not to look at that opposing one’s feelings. It’s just some kind of understanding that might resolve a few things and it is related to that one does not need to be all down to connect back.

 

The bird and the penguin

There was a bird that wanted to learn how to fly and it came across a penguin who was willing to teach it. He desiged exercises such as jumping and then picking up little pebbles. One time the wind blew away one of the pebbles and the penguin told the bird to get it back. The bird spread its wings and flew over to the pebble, picked it up and placed it back to where it was. “Ok, let’s continue”, the penguin said. The bird, feeling uneased about this idea yet not seeming to be able to make out why, proceeded to do so.

The same situation happened to occur again but this time the bird replied: “I just flew, do you think it is needed to continue the exercise?” to which the penguin answered: “Yes, surely it is needed.” And both, after some hesitation, went on about the practice.

Eventually within the 3rd occurance of this situation the bird paused, went within closing its eyes, gave everything some consideration and then said: “I decided to stop learning from you. Thank you for everything” But when it opened its eyes the penguin was nowhere to be seen, glancing what seemed more like the shape of another bird shortly before it disappeared.

Life-Metaphers: Tetris

There are many expressions of the unconscious.

In Tetris when you clear a line it means that you have integrated an insight, learnt it. There are times when you may feel stuck and maybe don’t know that you have a major chain-reaction waiting, ready to clear tons of stuff out.

It is important to integrate but this game shows that life doesn’t always bring you something that fits πŸ˜‰ It is a metapher for life. So overintegrating may not work out for life.

In this game you also got to intuitively focus on what comes next while you are “dealing” with the part that comes down.

Then there is the theme of trust. You gotto trust that the part you really need comes.But if you focus too much you neglect other things. So the lesson here is not to zoom too close all the time although this is something different than being in the moment. I feel though feeling the most alive is a mix of being in the now while having something from your past going and also being connected to the future with most of the focus being on the now. The past and future themes are more like something you evoke as a sensation and mix into the now, I guess that’s how we do it.

The theme of letting go is also in it. And come back on it later as is the theme of faith and hope.

Now I don’t like to look at life as a game, yet sometimes it helps, Β but rather games as life. Surely there is more about life than learning and integrating but that’s not how I mean it cause that always happens anyway while you just live it.

Being stuck

I was waking up the other day when a bee tried to get out in the open again and her buzzes kept me awake. I stayed in bed hoping it would find the exit but it just flew against the window pane over and over again.

Then I was thinking how this is exactly how one could get stuck in life. When you try over and over the same thing. But the main part is the frustration from in this case not finding the exit and from the overall established situation.

And the only way it seems to change something about that is to let go of the distress and just fly out and never look back. Or especially through letting go you then have enough space in your sight to even see the opportunites.

The trappy thing about such a situation – being stuck in life – are the emotions. It’s not good to ignore them or act as if everything is just fine, yet being angry and frustrated also doesn’t work, or it depends, expressing emotions is never a bad idea, yet it could reconfirm something that keeps one stuck.

The bee seemed frustrated. Only after she stopped trying the old way she must have found the gap. And once she was out she likely didn’t care much.

But imagine she would have stayed in this position for quite a while, she would probably identified itself with it which is rather a metapher.

So as for such situations it seems that letting go of emotions that reconfirm a self-fulfilling selfimage is the key but the way it is done is through insight and not self-critically or such, just knowing that one did it the wrong way and that was why things didn’t got better and then trusting into a change and through this letting go of frustration.

It’s like you walked down the wrong road and it’s pointless to walk back or on and you can only leave that road.

Another thing that comes with it is the way our realtionships established during such times. And one probably feels the need to stay consistent and how would that look if you would just be like someone else almost or actually just the way one is which is easy to lose touch to. Here i think the best thing one could do is to simply be oneself and never bother to explain yourself or wait for confirmation or such or try to figure out what others may think now and by doing this not getting back on the old road.

One’s literally gotto to leave the whole situation with all that came with it – including ways of looking at life -at the future, the past and all the comforting things about it also. And the main tricky thing is to not leave yourself in such situation behind and walk on empty. It’s all in the way one lets go. It “should” be almost playful or refreshed and calm and not trying hard but it is also possible to try hard not to try hard πŸ˜‰ which is why i don’t like the word should, I just don’t know any better way to phrase it. Yet a fighting attitude may be reasonable aswell.

The moment I wanted to help out the bee by wanting to open the window it was already flewn out but that probably doesn’t mean much, yet i like this as a metapher aswell. Another one would be how peaceful it flies once out Β compared to the tilted attitude before. Yet it was the same bee.