This can take the form of giving you tipps/appearing to help you, while being critisizing or not genuinely concerned.
Tipps about something that would be part of your way so you would end up not doing it.
A solution to this is to see it for what it is, although it could be just a side-effect of another thing they do. The assertive mantra for this could be: “That’s exactly what I’m gonna do.” It may not be exactly the same thing.
Let’s look at what’s going on here statewise: They are poisening the well so to speak. They are wrapping your goals with their scent so you would not go for it. Doing it would have an adjusted childstate frame, which you would rebel against then.
The energy of rebelling may still useful, to take their frame away but it also comes with disadvantages.