Metapher: Moving on

For stuck situations

Be like a train. With stops I mean.

Fuel: anger for the situation, but it’s not your fault. I could explain but believe me it isn’t This is important so the anger doesn’t go towards yourself.

The kind of anger that lets you function just fine and be respectful or genuinely friendly and giving when you want to but also assertive towards disrespectful behaviour. But not the “anger” that means a button is pushed. That usually goes over the top. I mean the anger that stops others from trying to keep you in your place, where they won’t try to give you their shit and also the anger that stops you from enabeling. The anger that neutralizes fear. It’s there but may not be so easy to get to if there is smoking or other things that may impress rather than express. Smoking is though not just impressing such is drinking. Once rolling there is not just anger but it’s the basic layer. Especially playfulness is back soon then and calmness may also be then the basic layer or part of it.

It comes as a side-effect of perception. But it also makes perception less distorted.

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An example to show what I mean. Let’s say you walk down the road and a person stands in the middle of the road 100 meters away from you and should notice you but keeps being busy with something. There is also a friend.  You could walk around but you could also realize that you would usually be respectful and leave some space (if you do) and this creates this anger. It’s very different from giving others your shit. Surely it depends on the person and their mood. But if their mood is, that they think they can do it with you, then it means when you get angry, they didn’t expect that and had not done so otherwise which results to being afraid to do it with somebody they think they cannot do it with. So they are underestimating you for whatever reason or you know people, they do random things :), always wanna play a game. So you would naturally allow anger and keep moving and see the person get out of the way (unless they are provoking, then anger doesn’t make sense, it’s very different, then it makes more sense to not fearfully but smartfully avoid the situation) And you may catch yourself saying something like: You stand in the fucking way! (not shouting or blaming, just expressing) and afterwards also not smiling since you were real. Yet it does feel liberating. The energy was on your side but it’s genuine without perceiving it, just being. I mean that’s at least how I see it.

I mean I noticed people only try to give me stuff when I’m down and then when I’m alright and ready nothing happens. I try to look at whatever they say as: Want my shit? It’s free

Life-Metaphers: Tetris

There are many expressions of the unconscious.

In Tetris when you clear a line it means that you have integrated an insight, learnt it. There are times when you may feel stuck and maybe don’t know that you have a major chain-reaction waiting, ready to clear tons of stuff out.

It is important to integrate but this game shows that life doesn’t always bring you something that fits 😉 It is a metapher for life. So overintegrating may not work out for life.

In this game you also got to intuitively focus on what comes next while you are “dealing” with the part that comes down.

Then there is the theme of trust. You gotto trust that the part you really need comes.But if you focus too much you neglect other things. So the lesson here is not to zoom too close all the time although this is something different than being in the moment. I feel though feeling the most alive is a mix of being in the now while having something from your past going and also being connected to the future with most of the focus being on the now. The past and future themes are more like something you evoke as a sensation and mix into the now, I guess that’s how we do it.

The theme of letting go is also in it. And come back on it later as is the theme of faith and hope.

Now I don’t like to look at life as a game, yet sometimes it helps,  but rather games as life. Surely there is more about life than learning and integrating but that’s not how I mean it cause that always happens anyway while you just live it.

Being stuck

I was waking up the other day when a bee tried to get out in the open again and her buzzes kept me awake. I stayed in bed hoping it would find the exit but it just flew against the window pane over and over again.

Then I was thinking how this is exactly how one could get stuck in life. When you try over and over the same thing. But the main part is the frustration from in this case not finding the exit and from the overall established situation.

And the only way it seems to change something about that is to let go of the distress and just fly out and never look back. Or especially through letting go you then have enough space in your sight to even see the opportunites.

The trappy thing about such a situation – being stuck in life – are the emotions. It’s not good to ignore them or act as if everything is just fine, yet being angry and frustrated also doesn’t work, or it depends, expressing emotions is never a bad idea, yet it could reconfirm something that keeps one stuck.

The bee seemed frustrated. Only after she stopped trying the old way she must have found the gap. And once she was out she likely didn’t care much.

But imagine she would have stayed in this position for quite a while, she would probably identified itself with it which is rather a metapher.

So as for such situations it seems that letting go of emotions that reconfirm a self-fulfilling selfimage is the key but the way it is done is through insight and not self-critically or such, just knowing that one did it the wrong way and that was why things didn’t got better and then trusting into a change and through this letting go of frustration.

It’s like you walked down the wrong road and it’s pointless to walk back or on and you can only leave that road.

Another thing that comes with it is the way our realtionships established during such times. And one probably feels the need to stay consistent and how would that look if you would just be like someone else almost or actually just the way one is which is easy to lose touch to. Here i think the best thing one could do is to simply be oneself and never bother to explain yourself or wait for confirmation or such or try to figure out what others may think now and by doing this not getting back on the old road.

One’s literally gotto to leave the whole situation with all that came with it – including ways of looking at life -at the future, the past and all the comforting things about it also. And the main tricky thing is to not leave yourself in such situation behind and walk on empty. It’s all in the way one lets go. It “should” be almost playful or refreshed and calm and not trying hard but it is also possible to try hard not to try hard 😉 which is why i don’t like the word should, I just don’t know any better way to phrase it. Yet a fighting attitude may be reasonable aswell.

The moment I wanted to help out the bee by wanting to open the window it was already flewn out but that probably doesn’t mean much, yet i like this as a metapher aswell. Another one would be how peaceful it flies once out  compared to the tilted attitude before. Yet it was the same bee.